Recently on facebook I received the “rule guide for pretty ladies raising breast cancer awareness” via message. The message was troubling not only due to the slacktivism I previously mentioned with the inane statuses, but also due to the way they conveyed the message. The lines that troubled me the most were, “Do NOT tell any males what the status’ mean, keep them guessing!! It’s time to confuse the men again (not that its really that hard to do :)) Everyone knows it makes their brains work wonders on what we’re talkin about!! “
Ok, here’s what’s troubling. The females that are participating in this obviously don’t view breast cancer as a disease that affects men in the least. I even went so far as to ask one of them why that is. She answered by asking me when “the last time I saw a man with breast (emphasis on the breast) cancer was.” Well, although less common, there’s still a visible percentage of men who are diagnosed with breast cancer each year. (Not to mention trans people affected by breast cancer.)
But let’s play the devil’s advocate. Let’s pretend breast cancer is only a cancer cisgendered heterosexual women get. They still would NOT be the only gender affected by breast cancer. Q: Who else could be affected? A: children (both boys and girls), husband/boyfriend, mother, father, sister, brother and friends.
Personally, I think anyone who wants to purposefully alienate men from the breast cancer cause are ignorant of the blast radius, so to speak. Please, please don’t alienate men from any so-called “women’s cause.” It’s not beneficial for them and it is not beneficial for us. Remember the point of all of this: Progress.